IN THE SIMPLEST SENSE, all weddings adhere to the same script: an exchange of vows, a white dress, a first dance, good cheer. Indeed, there are a few moments in our lives in which tradition is as expected, or plays as prominent a role. Yet, great weddings don't stand on ceremony alone. In fact, the true personality of any wedding—large, small, simple or sumptuous—comes from only one source: the two of you. By sharing something of yourselves on your special day, you create a mix of heart, soul, affection and warmth. From those ingredients, ordinary weddings become extraordinary weddings. So what do you need to do to find your personal best? Just look inward for inspiration.